Our brain’s primary job is to keep us safe, and it does this by scanning for danger.
When the fight/flight/freeze pathway is activated, a cascade of changes happen in your body without any pause to think or evaluate.
It’s really normal to wonder what other people think about you.
I’ve heard clients say things like, “I have an opinion but I’m afraid of their reaction”, “it’s easier to say nothing because then I won’t say the wrong thing”, or “I’m so busy stressing about what to say that the moment passes and my comment isn’t relevant anymore”.